Often we look at others and claim that they are closed to any new thought that challenges what they believe or what they have learned from their trusted sources. Let's leave those others alone and take some time to help you ascertain where YOU yourself are on the scale.
1. Do you ever assume that people that believe differently than you have evil intentions because they are "rejecting the truth"?
Frequently people assert that one priority is more important than another, thinking thoughts like, "good people place this as top priority, and bad people don't." This is a way to close yourself off right from the start. For instance, both sides of the gun control argument want safety for, but they argue about which method is safer in the long run.
2. Are you honest-to-goodness willing to admit when someone else is right and you are wrong, or do you always have to "win" the argument?
No one "wins" an argument. Truth prevails, so fighting for your point of view excessively, especially when you know that you are wrong in some sense is without avail. It's okay to admit when you are mistaken.
3. Do you ever simply contradict somebody's point by asserting the opposite without asking why they believe that way?
This is Class A verbal violence. Think of the Monty Python argument sketch and how pointless their conversation is. If someone says something you disagree with, show some evidence that they may not have had access to instead of saying
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4. Do you associate yourself only with people that believe just like you, or do you also coexist with those of differing faiths and political affiliations?
I sometimes end up being around people that are on a similar part of the spectrum as me because it means less contention. That suggests that I can probably do better at getting along with others, but my friends and I tend to like the same activities, so it doesn't mean that I have to change my close circle of friends.
5. Do you ever take the time to just listen to what others believe, or do you assume that they hold certain truths inevitable?
Don't assume that you know what someone else is trying to say or what they hold near and dear to them. Ask. It's that simple.
6. When was the last time you sat down and asked yourself what you can do to better understand a religious or political standing that you know little about?
Do some research and develop your own knowledge of things as they really are.
7. Do you get defensive, or snarky when someone disagrees with you, or do you here them out?
If you start saying "but but but but" you aren't listening. If you flip around and make accusations you are struggling to own up to the truth of the matter. Also, sarcasm indicates a lack of willingness to understand.
8. Would you agree that it is wrong to degrade others based on their beliefs, even when those beliefs oppose what you stand for?
This one is hard because we often associate attacking those who support an idea with proving them wrong, but all it really does is portray hate on our part, even if we really don't hate them.
9. Do you accept others for who they are regardless of political difference/indifference, lifestyle or religious disagreement?
You don't have to constantly argue and bicker with your neighbor because you are Catholic and they are Atheist, or because they aren't Republican and they like the Patriots. You can let it slide.
10. Do you ever label those people as "stupid", "ignorant", "haters", "racist", "bigoted", "self righteous", etc.?
Name calling is the most common way that we learn to manipulate others into agreeing with us. Politicians love this one, and many activists use it, too. The labels we put on things and people can drastically affect the way we look at them. If you call someone a Nazi, you bring all of the emotion behind the Holocaust into play. If you call someone "racist" you affirm that they discriminate based on skin color or nationality alone. If you ever use terms like this, be sure to not only have evidence that they really are racist, you should have be able to sincerely and completely refute any evidence that they aren't racist. Remember that some irrefutable evidence is required in court in order to convict. Act likewise. Playing the devil's advocate against your claim will help with this one.
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